Sunday, November 30, 2008

Life

"As sons and daughters of God, we cherish life as a gift from Him. His eternal plan provides opportunities for His children to obtain physical bodies, to gain earthly experiences, and to realize their divine destinies as heirs of eternal life."
Russell M. Nelson, “Abortion: An Assault on the Defenseless,” Liahona, Oct 2008, 14–19

The last few days I have not been able to stop thinking about a news story that I saw, about Carlos Boozer's family and another family here in Utah. (Here is the link to the story, http://ksl.com/?nid=148&sid=4904000) With Aleck's condition this really hit home, both of these families chose to go and have their embryos tested for disease/disorders/disability, however you want to put it. After testing they choose which embryos get to live, and which do not, their whole purpose is to have a "healthy" child, unaffected by what ever could be passed on to them from the parent(s). I just wanted to cry as I watched the story. I cannot imagine someone choosing to kill, in my opinion, a child or multiple children in these cases because they inherited a bad gene. I am truly thankful for medical technology and the treatments we have for disease/disorders/disabilities, but when it comes down to life I believe that all have the right to live no matter what is wrong with our physical bodies, and in the end we all have at least a little something wrong.

Aleck's condition came about because of a gene mutation, because Chad nor I have the condition, but he has a 50/50 chance of passing aniridia on to his children. If I had known that he was going to be born with this ailment I would have never chose to not have him because of it, and I pray that he will do the same for his children. He is a child of God, (as we all are), who deserved a chance to gain a physical body and to live on this earth to learn and to grow, I know I am blessed to have the gospel (being a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints) and to know the truths of this life. It just breaks my heart that the world is becoming so careless that they would be willing to sacrifice a life for their idea of "perfection", which is unattainable anyway. In my opinion it is all selfish, no one wants to see there children suffer physically, or in any other way, and no one wants to spend endless hours in the hospital, or at the doctors, or therapy or potentially have to watch there child die, but that is what being a parent is all about, becoming selfless.

I would not trade anything for the opportunity that I have to raise a child with special needs, it is not easy and many tears have been shed over the difficulties. But in the end he is Aleck, a child, and aniridia does not define his life, in the eternities it will just be a small spec of who he is and what he went through in this life.



Aleck the day he was born, wouldn't trade it for anything-
This is what LIFE is about!

I just needed to vent, sorry it is so long!

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

Family Fun!

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Friday, November 7, 2008

Halloween!

I kinda forgot about Halloween! We had a fun time at Quintin's school party, and then we carved pumpkins, but after that he got sick and spent the rest of the night throwing up. Better luck next year! If your wondering who the little kitten is, she belongs to one of my friends, that babysit for, isn't she soooo cute! We love our Adda (Addison), thats what Aleck calls her.

Tuesday, November 4, 2008

GRATITUDE!

Today for our family home evening we are talking about gratitude and blessings. So last night I was going over in my head all of the wonderful things that I have been blessed with in my life, some times I get so caught up in life that I forget how truly blessed I am. I first thought about Chad and what a wonderful husband he is, I don't think that there is another person in this world that could deal with my craziness at times!

Then I thought about my two beautiful boys, and what wonderful blessings they are in my life. I remembered when I was trying to get pregnant with Quintin and we prayed for two years to have a baby, I was beginning to think that it wasn't going to happen and then out of the blue I ended up pregnant, we were so excited. It then took us four years to get pregnant with Aleck, needless to say I didn't always have the best attitude about waiting that long, it was very frustrating at times, but I really tried to remember who was in charge. When Aleck came along everything fell right in to place, or at least it made sense to me. With Alecks disability and constant doctors appointments I would have never survived with two little ones, and I needed Quintin's maturity at times to lift me up when I fell. Although he was only five when Aleck was born, he at times had the wisdom and faith that I lacked. I remember one night I was putting him to bed and I thought he was asleep, it had been a long day, with lots of doctors appointments for Aleck and I was confused and overwhelmed. I started to cry, and I felt Quintin hug me, he looked up to me with his big beautiful blue eyes and asked why I was crying, and I told him I was sad and scared for Aleck, then Quintin said, "Mom you don't need to be scared you know that Jesus will fix him someday, he will give him blue eyes." (For those who don't know, Aleck was born with a rare visual deformity/impairment called Aniridia and he has no iris, which is the color part of the eye.) I just sat there for a moment and thought to myself is it that simple, and I realized it is. Life isn't easy and we will have challenges, but if we have faith we will receive the blessings we need to endure. Quintin was there for me that night so that I could endure.

I am just so thankful that Quintin was chosen to be here with me and to bless my life. I am also so thankful for a Heavenly Father who knows best, I try not to ever question his timing or intentions. Going through this challenge with Aleck has taught me that, "There are no accidents in Gods plans." I am just so thankful for a loving Heavenly Father, who sent me such special children who continue to bless my life every minute of every day, and continue to remind me of what is important.Who could ask for more!